Comments on: Thirteen Years

By: Jackie Rios

Jackie Rios — Fri, 14 Jan 2011 10:03:35 +0000

I love that last paragraph that you wrote, namely the part where you wrote what was critical to your success. Right on. Reminds me of the key elements in a book I recently read, “When Sinners Say I Do” by Dave Harvey

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:10:37 +0000

So, wandering around your blog was NOT on my list of things to do today, but here I am and now you know it’s as hard for me to not leave comments in cyberspace as it is for me to not talk in person.

That said… I liked what you said at the end even though you weren’t going to say any more. You asked Paula what she thought and then you thought about what she said. (Whether you agreed in the end is less relevant.) And I think that “asking and listening and thinking” is definitely another ingredient for a successful marriage. Well done in showing rather than telling. : )

By: K.L.B.

K.L.B. — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 11:32:46 +0000

Happy Anniversary to you and Paula, Anthony!

May your years together continue to be increasingly filled with the joys of wedded bliss, and may you both continue to lean upon one another and upon Him who is our true strength and joy.

By: Simon

Simon — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 09:51:22 +0000

Congratulations to you both!

I’m trying to think of something witty to write here…

Nope, a thirteen year marriage isn’t good wit fodder. Sorry dude, you’ll just have to make do with the congrats and nothing more

By: Roger Green

Roger Green — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 18:29:59 +0000

Congrats.
10 years here. Totally agree about moving forward or break up. Reminds me of the Alvy Singer line he broke up with Annie Hall, “What we have here is a dead shark.”

A successful marriage needs compromise, not to principle but to each other. Of course, if you’re not on the same page principle-wise, chaos will ensue.

By: Kevin Benson

Kevin Benson — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 03:07:27 +0000

Congratulations! Thirteen years is indeed no small accomplishment. I appreciate your comment about remembering that you are both sinners. I certainly find that I need to remember that I am a sinner. I have a tendency to find fault in Katrina when more times than not I need to be looking at myself. God has to keep reminding me of this.

After we were engaged, Katrina had a picture of marriage as Hollywood vs. the Farm. Popularly, marriage is glamorous and beautiful and a smooth ride. In reality, it is more like a farm. It is beautiful, but it takes a lot of work and sometimes it smells. However, in the end, if it has been well tended, it bears great fruit.

I fully realize that I am no expert after only six years, but these are some things that have been important to me.